Published by Hyperion on 2013-08-20
Genres: Biography & Autobiography, General
When Nicole Hardy’s eye-opening “Modern Love” column appeared in the New York Times, the response from readers was overwhelming. Hardy’s essay, which exposed the conflict between being true to herself as a woman and remaining true to her Mormon faith, struck a chord with women coast-to-coast.
Now in her funny, intimate, and thoughtful memoir, Nicole Hardy explores how she came, at the age of thirty-five, to a crossroads regarding her faith and her identity. During her childhood and throughout her twenties, Nicole held absolute conviction in her faith. But as she aged out of the Church’s “singles ward” and entered her thirties, she struggled to merge the life she envisioned for herself with the Mormon ideal of homemaker, wife, and mother.
Confessions of a Latter-day Virgin chronicles the extraordinary lengths Nicole went to in an attempt to reconcile her human needs with her spiritual life—flying across the country for dates with Mormon men, taking up salsa dancing as a source for physical contact, even moving to Grand Cayman, where the ocean and scuba diving provided some solace. But neither secular pursuits nor church guidance could help Nicole prepare for the dilemma she would eventually face: a crisis of faith that caused her to question everything she’d grown up believing.
In the tradition of the memoirs Devotion and Mennonite in a Little Black Dress, Confessions of a Latter-day Virgin is a mesmerizing and wholly relatable account of one woman’s hard-won mission to find love, acceptance, and happiness—on her own terms.
My thoughts: I actually didn’t realize that this was a memoir until I started writing this review (my attention to detail is not always the greatest!)— not that it changed my views on it much– it just started a fire storm of researching all about Nicole Hardy, trying to learn as much as I can about her. I thoroughly enjoyed her memoir, and it read just like a great novel– the “main character” (Nicole) was intriguing, funny, kind and a flawed character that you couldn’t help but love. Nicole wove her experiences into such an interesting story that didn’t bash the religion she didn’t feel like she fit into, but instead explained the reasons why she didn’t fit in. I loved all the adventures that she allowed herself to have– and the adventures she could take as a single woman sounded delightful. I’m not a Mormon, so the explanations and descriptions of the culture and rituals were informative and interesting and added a lot to her story– but I’ve also always been fascinated with the Mormon faith. I’m not normally one to pick up non-fiction memoirs or biographies, but Nicole’s writing might have changed my mind on that. This was a delightful and interesting read.
I received this book for free from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.